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Debby Shulman

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10/06/2008 11:07 AM	Alert
Hello everyone, You may or may not know my story, so I will summarize it briefly. I had a stillbirth at 23 1/2 weeks and am now seeing a fertility specialist because i am having trouble conceiving. Had so many hopes of getting pregnant right away, crushed to the point of "i dont know what". Anyway, does anyone know how to handle others pregancies? I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant, after trying only a couple of months or even on the first try in one case. I know i put on a smile for them as i say congratulations...although it just crushes me inside. I just dont see how its fair that some have such an easy time and others have to go through so much and have such tragedy on our very long journey to become mothers. If anyone has any suggestion, insight or any thoughts they would like to share, i would love to hear from you. Debby Mother of an angel in heaven

Sharon G

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Posts: 217

10/06/2008 2:59 PM	Alert
I think everyone deals with seeing other pregnant in a different way. It really never bothered me even though I struggled with infertility. It is frustrating of course, but I always felt like it would happen (eventually). Some people choose to distance themselves from people they know are pregnant. But sometimes that is impossible especially if they are family or coworkers. Maybe you can pray about it. Ask God to take away those feelings and help you feel confident in God's promised blessings for your life. I hope it gets better. I also hope your specialist can treat your cause of infertility and help you conceive soon.

Sharon G Mother to two angels - Drew (S/B 12-07) & Baby G (M/C 09-08)

LaDundriette McCain

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Posts: 49

10/06/2008 6:45 PM	Alert
Sorry to hear of your loss. I feel that everywhere I look, there's a pregnant woman, in or out of my circle of family and friends. I've been invited to three baby showers for this month and I've told two of the three ladies about my loss and that I may not be up to attending. They've all appreciated my honesty and have supported me in my feelings. I haven't told the other friend (her daughter is pregnant) as we're not really all that close. Her ex-sister-in-law and I grew up together and I met her through her and her ex-husband. I think if you see fit, just be honest to those closest to you who are pregnant and hopefully they won't do or say anything to upset you. I'll say a prayer that you're able to manage the pregnancies you've come in contact with and will come in contact with. Take care.

LM Mommy to one angel in Heaven - - Kai Angel (m/c at seven and half weeks...grew wings on December 17, 2007)

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