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Leah Marini
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| 09/02/2007 6:51 PM |
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| I found out I was pregnant August 20th. As of right now, I am 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and this is my first pregnancy. On the 30th, I noticed spotting and had to go in for an ultrasound where they saw nothing. Because of my HCG levels and the ultrasound, they believe I have an ectopic pregnancy. However today when my spotting got heavier they said they believe I am either miscarrying or it is from the ectopic. Everyone keeps telling me that I'm lucky.. I'm lucky because it's so early and everything will be okay, but I don't feel that way. I feel lost and confused and angry and sad and more than anything, depressed. Sometimes I am okay, but I can't stop thinking about it, especially with being in a hospital every other day and calls from doctors on the days in between. I am scared and so discouraged. I just really don't know where to go or what to do... |
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Melissa Stephens
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| 09/05/2007 8:00 PM |
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| Leah, I am so very sorry for your loss! I'm also sorry that people are telling you that you're lucky. That is just awful, and absolutely your feelings are valid. You have lost a precious child and should be allowed to grieve that child. I hope you find comfort and solace here. |
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Melissa
wife to Rob
mommy to:
David, my 1st angel in heaven - born still October 23, 2003
C.J., my angel on earth - Sept. 29, 2005
Baby Stephens, my 2nd angel in heaven - June 30, 2008
Stanley, my fur-baby - miniature schnauzer, 4 years old |
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Alethia Clark
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| 09/21/2007 3:58 PM |
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Hello Leah,
I can't tell from your post if the doctors confirmed a miscarriage. Did they confirm it, or do they just suspect it?
Let me know. In the mean time, I will pray for you and your baby. |
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Melissa Williams
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| 09/27/2007 10:40 AM |
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I completely understand. I am in the process of a miscarriage and I was only about 6-7 weeks along. All the doctors keep telling me the same things as you "Oh you're luck it's early", or "better luck next time", or "It's Ok, you'll be ok, you're young, just try again." ect
I plan on trying again, but that doesn't make THIS loss any easier, at the moment. It just feels like a bad dream. One minute, I'm thrilled for this new life growing inside me, the next I am crying wondering what I could have done wrong. Going over every second in my head over and over, terrified I'll have to go through this again.
I know exactly what you're going through, and I will pray for you. |
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Cassandra Stoffel
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| 10/03/2007 7:55 AM |
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I can understand your pain and feelings of such enormous loss. I lost my baby at 11 weeks. Everyone told me, at least you know you can get pregnant. I think people who have never went through this try there best to make you feel better but sometimes end up making it worse by saying the wrong things.
I read a book that helped me a lot. It's call Silent Grief by Clara Hinton
I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is grieving the loss of a child |
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Cassandra Stoffel
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| 10/03/2007 7:55 AM |
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I can understand your pain and feelings of such enormous loss. I lost my baby at 11 weeks. Everyone told me, at least you know you can get pregnant. I think people who have never went through this try there best to make you feel better but sometimes end up making it worse by saying the wrong things.
I read a book that helped me a lot. It's call Silent Grief by Clara Hinton
I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is grieving the loss of a child |
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LATOYA HENRY
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| 10/30/2007 3:37 AM |
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I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN, AND THE MAIN QUESTION THAT I ALWAYS HAVE IS " CAN I EVEN HAVE CHILDREN". WELL, THIS IS NOT A QUICK HEALER, IN ACTUAL FACT, THIS WILL TAKE SOME TIME ALL THAT I ASK OF YOU IS , DON'T ALLOW YOUR LOSS, TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR BODY HEART, AND SOUL MEANING, DON'T GIVE UP, PLS MOURN YOUR LOSS AND DEFINATELY GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME FOR YOUR BODY TO HEAL BEFORE YOU TRY AGAIN. BUT DON'T DO LIKE I DID AND WALLOW IN MY PAIN. THE WORLD CAN BE BRUTAL, YOUR MIND IS THE FINAL CRITIC. BE STRONG, NOT ONLY FOR YOU, BUT FOR THAT POTENTIAL FUTURE BABY THAT MAY COME.
TAKE GOOD CARE,
LEE |
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