Jessica Davis
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| 07/09/2008 9:33 PM |
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I should have had my baby in June. And I thought I was doing great until I saw Army Wives when Joan decides to keep her child and not aborte it. She give this great speech to her husband and then shows him the video of their child in her womb. This was my breaking point. I remember going in for my u/s and i remember the line going across where we should be able to see the heart beat. This is what i get mad about. Why not us?? I know that God has a plan for all of us, but he makes it hard from me to understand what his plan is for me. It was also hard for me because when i got pregnant a couple of other couples also got pregnant at the same time. So now that they all have their precious babies, i have no baby. And they have no clue what i'm going through, but they try and i'm grateful for that. It is just hard to see everyone so happy with their baby and thinking that it could be me. Also people keep saying how easy it is to get pregnant right after a misscariage. Well it hasn't been easy for us. We could start again in January and we still haven't gotten pregnant yet. There is something in the back of head that keeps telling me there is reason why we haven't. Maybe we weren't meant to in the first place. Sorry to be so negative, but it hard. I just wanted to get this off my chest to people who have gone through this. I have read several of your post and i'm grateful for them. You ladies have helped me a lot already. Thank and I will keep all of you in my prayers.
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| 07/10/2008 11:30 AM |
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Jessica,
I udnderstand how you feel and in time, I hope these feelings will be better. I recently lost my baby at almost 32 weeks. He had passed away without me knowing. When I went to my doctor's appointment, I discovered that he had no heartbeat. But how could it be? Everything was going well. The sad reality was he was gone.
Similar to you, I got pregnant around the same time as people I know. They are still continuing their pregnancy. What's most sad is that I live in a douplex. My upstairs neighbor is still pregnant and I see her belly growing. This makes me so sad. I wish my body was still taking care of my dear son.
We may think that no one truly understands the way we feel, but the feeling is imaginable. The loss of a child, doesn't matter at what age/point, is hard. I would trade places with my son right now. But we must go on and have hope because the reality is not what is going on in our heads. We must face reality strongly and go on.
On more thing, don't think that you were not meant to be a mother. It's just that the "right" time has not come. And when it does, you will be a mother.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/10/2008 4:34 PM |
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Dear Jessica, I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.
I think everyone here unfortunately knows and understand what you are going through. I too have a pregnant friend I see at least weekly (at church) and she was one month behind me. I hurts deeply everytime I see her. It reminds me my belly should be bigger than hers. It reminds me of what I have lost and never can get back. I don't want her to know how much it hurts seeing her. It isn't her fault. But reality is that it hurts. Badly.
We have been trying to get pregnant now for 3 months since the loss. I have been praying that I won't get pregnant until my body is physically ready for it. Being I haven't yet I 'just' have to trust God it isn't the right time. Only He knows what it best for me, only He sees the future from the future. Sure it is hard to trust. It is a continious decision.
Here is a verse of encouragement:
"I am still confident in this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord, be strong and take heart, and wait on the Lord" Psalm 27:13-14
Please don't give up hope of being a mother. Yet, if you do, I will keep hoping for you. Also know though that you already are a mother although sadly you can't hold your baby. But you are a mother.
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Sharon G
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| 07/10/2008 6:02 PM |
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Jessica,
I send my sympathy for your loss. Have you had an infertility workup? I know that a lot of women on this site also struggle with infertility including myself.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/10/2008 9:31 PM |
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Thank you for all of your responses they have helped me so much. They all touched my heart in a way that you would understand. I get so angry lately and that is not my nature at all, but I can't help myself lately. I try so hard but when i hear of another couple getting pregnant i keep a happy face but inside i just die. Why can't I just get over this??? And your faith in God is so strong, mine on the other hand is not so strong. I keep telling myself that he had a plan and that I will become a mother when it is right, but deep down I am so angry with him. I have a hard time even praying any more. I am only 26 and I have had to bury 3 of my closest friends and now this. Have I done something so horrible that he doens't want me to be happy? I used to be the most faithful person, but lately I have had a hard time even believing in Him. And I think that is the hardest part. I feel like I lost a good friend, a friend that I could tell anything. I don't know what I would have done if I was in some of your guys shoes. I have read some of the other threads and I just can't imagine the pain that you guys went through. I'm so sorry. Thank you for all of your help. I can't believe that I didn't know about this site earlier. It has been so helpful.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/10/2008 9:35 PM |
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No I have not had an infertility workup. I guess I am too scared. People say that I'm so young, what is the hurry? But once you have lost something that you have wanted for so long, it is hard to answer that question. I will probably wait until the end of this year and if nothing happens by then I will probably go talk to my doctor about it. Thanks for all the advice and prayers.
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Sharon G
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| 07/11/2008 7:57 AM |
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Jessica,
The good news is that God will never leave you or give up on you. He will stay by your side and whenever you are ready to talk again he will be there ready to listen.
His love is unconditional and we cannot lose it. He loves you.
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Amy Curtis
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| 07/11/2008 3:48 PM |
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Jessica,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried 2 years ago after trying for several years to get pregnant.
Although I've been blessed to give birth to 1 healthy child, my husband and I tried to have another but were unable to without fertility medicine. I finally got pregnant, but miscarried after 7 weeks. After trying so hard and wanting another baby so much, it was devastating to say the least. It's so difficult to understand why God would let something so horrible happen. However, I know in my heart that there must have been something terribly wrong with my baby, and he/she would probably not have had a very good life if he/she had lived. Still, it doesn't make things any easier thinking that. It still hurts like hell some days.
My best friend also suffered a miscarriage a few months before I did. However, since then she has had another child (which seems so unfair since I have yet to get pregnant again). In her case, it WAS easy for her to get pregnant immediately after her miscarriage.
Jessica, I'm afraid there are no real answers that make sense to us. The only thing we can really do is pray to God to give us the strength to get through it all.
I hope you can find some peace by being here on this board. I know it has helped me. It's also helped me to see that even though my situation is difficult, it could always be much worse.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/13/2008 3:31 PM |
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| Thank you for your response. I am finding this easier and easier to read the responses on here. At first every time someone responded to my first comment, I would just cry. Now it is getting easier to talk about my situation and here other people's stories too. I am really glad that I was able to find you ladies. I didn't have any one to talk to this about with and juswt kept a lot of it bottled in. My husband was really supportative at first but then he just couldn't understand why I couldn't just move on. I think it is because he never got the to experience anything. I mean we never got a real u/s and never heard the heart beat, and of course he never got to feel the baby move. So to him, it was almost like it was never really there. So in case it was probably easier for him to get over, but for me it was so much more. I felt the baby in me, even though i never felt it move, i just new the little baby was there. So after a while I just stopped talking to him about it. I hated talking to my friends about it because I coud tell it made them akward because they didn't know what to tell me. I think mostly I just wanted them to listen, but you could tell that was even hard for them. So With this site I have so many people to talk to, it is really nice. Plus maybe I might get to help some one else in the process. So I just want to thank all of you for your help and prayers. This has been the best thing for me. I hope one day I will have some good news for you, but until then I think I'm starting to really like God take care of it for me. |
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/13/2008 3:53 PM |
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Jessica, so glad this site is helpful for you. To be able to talk about what happened is a very important part of a healthy healing process. Bottling it all up is not healthy at all. It can turn into excessive anger instead. Yet talking with others who do not understand and don't know what to say or not to say isn't always helpful either, so I am glad we have resources like this site these days.
You are in my prayers.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/13/2008 3:54 PM |
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Jessica, so glad this site is helpful for you. To be able to talk about what happened is a very important part of a healthy healing process. Bottling it all up is not healthy at all. It can turn into excessive anger instead. Yet talking with others who do not understand and don't know what to say or not to say isn't always helpful either, so I am glad we have resources like this site these days.
You are in my prayers.
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Amy Curtis
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| 07/14/2008 1:49 PM |
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Jessica,
Sorry to say, but husbands just aren't capable of understanding what it's like to go through this. My husband is no different. Although he was very understanding and caring at first after my miscarriage, he doesn't feel attached to our baby like I still do. He doesn't understand why I still cry sometimes. Once you know you are pregnant, that baby is a part of you and a part of your life. Men just don't understand that you not only lost a baby, but you lost part of yourself as well.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/14/2008 9:46 PM |
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Not all men are the same... Yes, men and women in general grieve differently. Women are more outward, men are more inward. Women have a great need to talk, men have a great need to think. My husband is still hurting deeply, he still has his sad moments (after 3 1/2 months) and still has the occasional tear. We are both going through grief, not just me. He is able to give me full support. I am sorry if it isn't the same for you... And I am sorry if I have offended anyone by writing this, but I just needed to defend my husband and others with a heart like his.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/14/2008 10:01 PM |
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Thank you for your response. I know that all men act differently about this. I think the reason my husband acts the way he does is because he was raised like that. His family just likes to forget about the bad stuff that happened. My family is totally different, we talk about everything until we have said everything we can think of. I also think that my husband just wants to forget that day ever happened. I remember the look on his face when we found out we lost the baby and that was one of the worst things i saw that day. You could tell his heart was broken. But of course he didn't cry, he just let me cry on his shoulder and he helped me get through most of it. But as for now, I think he would just rather not bring up those emotions, so he just doesn't let himself go there. I think he thinks that it is that easy for me, but it isn't. I wasn't raised like that. Plus it isn't like I purposely make myself sad, it just happens and he really doesn't understand that. He is a more logical person and I am a more emotional person. So I am not offended by what Karin wrote, but I thought I would explain my husband a little bit more so people didn't think he was completely shut off. Plus in a sense it just is a little harder for us woman just because every period is emotional. Not only because what it stands for, but also if you ladies are anything like me I am very emotional during those times. I don't think my husband fully understands that. Anyways, I'm glad Karin responded because all men are not made the same. As all women are not made the same either.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/15/2008 12:19 AM |
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Jessica, you are so right, how we are raised often influences how we react in certain situations - do we cry, do we talk, do we pretend it never happened. Yet inspite of how we are raised people can change. I don't think my husband grew up in a family that talked much. His dad pretty much just controlled everything. You would have thought my husband would have become more 'tough' but both him and his brother are very caring, of course particularly towards their wives.
Like you say though, Jessica, women also has the hormones to deal with. I get really down when I get my period (both because it means I am not pregnant but also I am sure because of hormones) and men don't quite have that to deal with. I am sure my husband gets a bit dissapointed every month we are not pregnant, but not as severely as me.
Glad you are not offended by what I wrote. I am hoping that maybe you will be able to communicate with your husband how you truly feel. We can't always expect them to fully understand, but that doesn't mean they can't listen and give us a hug. We can pray that God will help them gain a greater understanding.
Yes, not all women are made the same either, that is so true. I came across a women today who has miscarried 17 times. It didn't seem to affect her much.
Thank God we are not all the same! But we should all work on becoming more Christlike.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/16/2008 7:03 AM |
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This has nothing do with what I have written before, but I'm just frustrated!!! How do you ladies do this??? I took a pregnancy test yesterday when I thought for sure that I was pregnant and it came up not pregnant. Then I thought I would take another one this morning and it was the same. I WANT TO PULL OUT MY HAIR. I just don't get it. Not only did we lose our babies, but now it seems like it is impossible to have another chance. I DON'T GET IT!!! I really thought this month was it. I felt like I had the same signs i had when i first got pregnant. So i get myself all excited and go through things in my head. Then guess what i'm completely wrong and now i'm just depressed and angry. Do any of you get this way?? BEcause every one on this site seems to have it all together. Your faith just must be that must stronger than mine, because mine is really starting to wear thin. I'm just frustrated. Is there any advice for this???
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Amy Curtis
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| 07/16/2008 8:11 AM |
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Jessica,
Please don't feel bad. I used to get my hopes up so much every month that I was late thinking, "This could be it!" Only to be let down when I did start my period. You are definitely not alone.[u] [/u]
I still get a little anxious some months when I'm late, even though at this point, I really don't think anything is going to happen.
I know it's very hard to think positively at this point, but please don't feel like you are alone. I still get depressed and angry sometimes, too. |
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/16/2008 12:37 PM |
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Thanks, that helps a lot. I'm just having a bad day I guess. Some months are worse than other and I don't get it. Today just seemed like the worse since I actually lost the baby. Everyone around is pregnant and I'm having a hard time keeping a happy face. I am truly happy for those blessed, but it is hard not to be sad for me. I know that is selfish, but like I said I'm just having a bad day. thanks for all your prayers and help.
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Sharon G
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| 07/16/2008 4:15 PM |
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Jessica,
Believe me when I say that we don't "have it all together". You are honest about your feelings and we have all felt that way at times. Not being pregnant is very frustrating no matter whether you are doing IVF, IUI, or the old fashioned way.
Keep the faith and believe in God's blessings.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/16/2008 8:56 PM |
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No, we definitely don't have it all together - we are all just humans, we all have our bad days. I am expecting my period tomorrow and if it does show up I will be lower than low. I know it will only last a day or two, but it will happen because I want to be pregnant so badly. Each month I hope and get dissapointed. Just keep hanging in there, sweetie, and know we are praying for you. For comfort and strenght and pregnancy.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/17/2008 10:08 AM |
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Karin,
Did you get your period? I really hope you didn't!! Maybe one of us was blessed this month. I did find out that if you do something nice for yourself that it helps a little. Go get a manicure or something like that. It doesn't take the pain away, but I think it helps me feel a little bit more normal, plus it takes my mind off it for a while. But i really do hope you didn't get your period today.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/18/2008 1:29 AM |
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Jessica, thanks for asking :) I didn't get my period today, but it could come tomorrow... Since my loss my cycles have been 27 days and that is today. Before my loss it was 28 days so there is a chance it could go back... I had a temperature dip on day 5 after ovulation which could mean pregnancy. Since then my temperture has only gone up. I am feeling hopeful, yet trying not to get too excited. I can't believe how anxious I am about it though. Even if I try and focus on other things I have a constant stomach pain due to nerves. Hardly slept last night either. I did test this morning but it is only 10 DPO and it was negative. So we'll see tomorrow. Feel like I am going crazy waiting!!!
Thanks for your best wishes!!!
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| 07/18/2008 5:15 AM |
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The anticipation is wonderful. I pray that you receive good news soon. Keep us updated.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/18/2008 8:56 AM |
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I know the feeling. I really hope you have a better outcome than I did. I got so mad that I broke my test. I threw it across the bathroom, gross. But I was so mad. I'm doing a lot better now.
So I really hope you don't have to go through that again. I really hope today is the day you find out. Let us know what happens either way, we are here for you!!
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/19/2008 2:06 AM |
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Friends, thank you so much for your support. You are amazing and wonderful!!! Today is day 28. I have never had a cycle longer than that. Still no AF but also still no positive test. I am 11 days past ovulation. I read that on average you get a positive test on day 13.6 so there is still hope...
Jessica, I am so sorry about you negative test. I completely understand your action of throwing it across the room! I don't know what I will do if I get a negative. Since my loss I have gotten a new best friend, online. Her and I lost our baby girls on the very same day. We are both Christians. We have gone through everything together. Except now she is pregnant again, 5 weeks. It may sound silly but we have such a strong bond and we both want nothing more than to share this whole journey together, side by side. How I need this to be the month! Yet, I must trust God. He knows best.
Thanks for being there for me! Likewise!!! Hope I am still welcome to check in if I get pregnant. I know I will need lots of support and prayers...
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Sharon G
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| 07/19/2008 6:21 AM |
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Of course you are still welcome. In fact, there is a special section just for early pregnancy.
I guess that is so that women who aren't ready to deal wtih other's pregnancies can skip it.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/19/2008 5:21 PM |
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Sharon, thanks for letting me know. Still no AF here, but also still no positive test and my temperature is getting lower. Not feeling very hopeful at all. I so need this, but don't we all... My daughter was supposed to be due in a month. Being pregnant again would not replace Kathleen but it would bring me comfort and fill that empty hole inside.
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Jessica Davis
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| 07/20/2008 8:45 PM |
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I do hope that you do tell us if you are pregnant and understand that we would be really happy for you. Try and stay positive, I know that can be hard. Also remember the if you aren't pregnant that we are here for you and that God has a plan for you. I know that doens't help when you get your period or negative test, but in the end we know that God does have a plan for us and that he hasn't forgotten us.
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| 07/21/2008 12:04 PM |
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Hey ladies,
I was driving back to work from lunch and suddenly everything became so clear to me. I can't really go into everything, but just know that I have found peace. And I just wanted to say thank you to everyone on here. I would have never gotten to this point if it was for everyone here. I think I just needed to get mad and allow myself to really get mad at God. That sounds funny, but I'm not an angry person and to let myself get mad at God wasn't really an option. But when I took my last pregnancy test and it came up negative I didn't have a choice. I was furious. I was mad at God and just about everyone else around me. After getting mad, I was able to really focus on everything else. I was able to really look at what happened to me, my husband, and my baby. I don't fully understand everything, but I'm at peace with it. I'm sure next month I will probably be upset if I get another negative result, but be more understandable. So I just wanted to say Thank you to everyone on here that just let me be sad, mad, and happy. You ladies mean the world to me and I couldn't have done this with out you. I'm not going any where, but I just wanted people to know that finding peace about all of this is possible. So it comes faster than others, and others it may take a lot longer than thought. Just know that it is possible. It doens't leave you, but you take it with you and are okay about that. It becomes a part of who you are and I'm glad for it. Not for losing my baby, but like the ladies on here say, "I am a mother and no one can take that away." Thanks every one.
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Karin Knapp
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| 07/22/2008 2:14 AM |
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Jessica, sounds like you had a real God moment. I am really happy for you. We all definitely need those and I am thankful for the ones I have experienced during these last 3 months. I only wish I could hold onto that moment and feeling, no matter what happened.
My period came this morning, 4 days late. I have been so low today. Low would probably be an understatement... Most of all I am so upset with myself for feeling this way. I want to lay my life down before God, including all my desires, but I keep failing! Why?? On a day like this I feel like a failure in all areas of my life - as a believer, as a mom, as a wife, as a woman. I am holding onto the fact that tomorrow is another day. A new day. I sure just wish I was coping better. Was more holy and strong.
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| 07/22/2008 7:26 AM |
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Karin, Guess What? You are human. You are going to feel like this sometimes. I hope you are having a better day, but I know that sometimes it takes longer. I know how you feel. It is so frustrating. And our faith is like a roller coaster, we have our ups and our downs. You are just experiencing a down. And the good news is that God is there waiting for us. He isn't going anywhere.
But don't feel ashamed of what you feel. This is very frustrating. You know in your job or marriage you can make changes to help succeed, but in this department you really have to just rely on God. That sounds a lot easier than it is. If you are any thing like me, I like to plan things out and be in control. Well, when you are trying to have a baby you have zero control over it. Isn't that frustrating. Especially for us. Don't you just feel like God is teasing you, I feel like that when ever i'm late. He isn't though, but it can feel that way. Just hang in there and eventually you feel better, but the thing that sucks is that we have to go through this every month. It seems like when we finally do feel better and it is time to get ready for another period and we go through the same thing over again. I will pray for you and I really hope you do start to feel better, but if not we are here for you!! If you ever want to e-mail me, my e-mail address is jt_billy@hotmail.com. I can get kind of windy on this forum. Sorry about that!!
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| 07/22/2008 7:01 PM |
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Jessica, I am feeling much better today, not great, but better. Thanks for being there for me! I appreciate your wise words. My husband was trying to tell me the same thing last night and I think it started to sink in. We are humans. We have up and down moments. It is not like I stop believing in God in my down moment - but I feel like if I was truly a believer I wouldn't have any down moments at all! I guess it just isn't so and I need to accept that. So hard though. I guess all I can do is ask God for strenght and keep trying to get better at just relying on God in this. Like you I think every month that this month I am stronger in God and I handle a negative, and each month when my period arrives I realize I wasn't as strong as I thought. Yeah, it does suck :)
I have never had a late period without being pregnant but I guess my body is still sorting itself out. I just wish it didn't take so long, but I have been praying that I won't get pregnant until my body is truly ready and in His timing, so I have to believe that is what is happening.
I am so thankful for this forum! A place where we can mutually encourage eachother in our faith. I am glad we can be real with eachother too. That not every day is a faith filled day. We are humans - but how I sometimes wish we weren't. Yet God created us that way...
Thanks again Jessica. I really appreciate it.
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| 07/22/2008 10:43 PM |
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Isn't it crazy that we have to go on with our life too. And for the most part we have to act like nothing is wrong. I have a co-worker that I can talk to, but on days like you had, I just want to crawl into a hole and just hide from the world, even my husband. But then I realize that the world keeps turning. Don't you wish you could put up a sign that says "LEAVE ME ALONE TODAY."
I think the longer that we deny that we are going through a slump with God, the longer it takes to get back up. I know it did for me. I was the same way. I always thought that I had a great relationship with God and wouldn't ever have a slump. Even when he took three of my friends in one summer. I couldn't be mad at him then because i knew they were with him. But when I had my miscarriage I think i was more mad at life in general. When I took my last pregnancy test I just remembering that I had to get into the shower so I could get to work. And I remember washing my hair and just thinking how mad I was at God. I just didn't even want to have anything to do with my faith or Him. I couldn't even think about praying. It wasn't even 4 days and I felt totally different. That may sound like a long time, but in reality I didn't know if I would ever have faith in God again. Needless to say I feel a lot better and I feel like a cloud has been lifted. I really hope that you get that back. Actually I know you will, just give it time. That is all we can do. ohh and don't give up. God will come through in the end.
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Jenni Raughley
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| 07/23/2008 7:07 AM |
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Jessica,
Just wondering how you found peace...probably a personal question and feel free to not answer...it is just something that I am struggling with so tremendously...when our frozen embryo transfer failed I was miserable and but I got through it thinking that our IVF would work because our first one did and when that failed I just feel like there is no hope and we are not meant to be parents to live babies...we will keep trying but its so hard when there is no reassurance that this will work at some point and I will have live babies to love and nurture...
I am happy for you and pray for your continual peace.
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Hopey Angel's mommy - stillborn 1/31/08 |
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Jenni Raughley
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| 07/23/2008 7:09 AM |
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Karin,
I am so sorry for the negative result, I too just got one with our last IVF attempt and it is soooo disheartening...I am thinking about you and hoping that you will get good news in the coming months!
Jenni |
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Hopey Angel's mommy - stillborn 1/31/08 |
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